The biggest mistake you can make in your quest to have your partner do more chores around the house is to ask for help. Asking for help implies that the responsibility for the chores belongs to just you. In actuality, chores around the house are shared responsibilities, and doing a good job dividing up the housework is essential to ensure a happy marriage. Here are some tips for dividing them fairly.

1.Learn About Your Priorities

Set your priorities as a couple. What is truly important to each of you? Many couples find they look at the division of chores differently.1 Domestic disorder simply doesn't bother some people. But if you are comfortable with a messy home and it bothers your spouse, you both need to compromise. Compromise works best if you select priorities, rather than trying to completely satisfy both partners. Discuss how you both feel about home-cooked meals versus quick meals or eating out now and then. Find out your own and each other's feelings about dust, a clean toilet, an unmade bed, a perfectly manicured lawn, paying bills on time and so forth. If one of you feels that a toilet is dirty after two or three days, then you need to share that information so you can understand what you each feel is important.

2. Anticipate Roadblocks

Sit down together and make a list of the chores that each of you absolutely hates to do. What one hates, the other may be able to tolerate. If both of you detest the same chore, then figure out a way to compromise in getting this particular unpleasant task done. Or perhaps you could tackle the horrid chore together, as a team. Agree on a Timetable It is important, too, to be considerate of one another's body clocks. Some folks are morning people and some folks are night owls. Forcing one another to do a project or chore when they really aren't ready to do it only creates tension. Timing is important.

3. Plan Each Week

Let one another know what the coming week is going to be like: meetings, errands, special occasions, etc. Then decide who is going to do what, make a list, and post the list. Then let it go. Don't nag each other about what you volunteered to do. If the task hasn't been done by the following week when you next sit down to share expectations, that's the time to bring it up. Reevaluating If one of you doesn't follow through on promises to do your share of the work around your home, try and discover together why there is such reluctance.

4. Be flexible and allow your partner to accomplish tasks in their own way

 If having the towels folded a certain way is super important to you, then do it yourself. If after discussing the situation, the two of you really can't get things done, then you need to make some choices. Look at some areas of your house and yard that you may want to cut back on to save both time and money. Hire some help or try to get your home organized so it runs more efficiently. Ask yourself if some chores even have to be done on a regular basis. For instance, if mowing the lawn is taking too much time. After an examination of your standard of housekeeping, your domestic chores may become less draining emotionally and physically.

5. Track each one achivements and reward your partner

Sometimes one partner overcommits or underestimates the time it could take to get something done. Blaming your partner for what hasn't been accomplished or finished will not be effective. Get used to track the time that you invest in your chores and easily compare it with your partner balance. Reevaluate your plan and adjust as needed of get ready to compensate your partner somehow if your balance is negative!